April / Molly
Name: Molly Myhand
Alma mater: Asbury University
Studied: Digital Storytelling
Takes her coffee: As a latte
Last book read: All Eyes On Her by L.E. Flynn
Responsible for: Everything including advertising, filming, and editing for MMF; managing patients' billing and insurances for CO&H
She Is Balanced: Your company, Molly Myhand Films, offers gorgeous cinematic wedding films to couple in Kentucky and beyond. How did you come to start your own business?
Molly Myhand: It was almost accidental, honestly. I was doing some small event videos for a company in Lexington when one of the girls who worked for them asked out of the blue if I would film her wedding. I almost said no at first. Wedding films are a huge undertaking, and I was terrified the film I made would disappoint the couple because I had never done anything like it before. I didn’t even realize wedding films were a thing before then. I think I spent something like eighty hours planning and practicing for that wedding shoot; I’ve honestly never been so nervous in my life, and that’s coming from a girl with chronic anxiety. It paid off though, because the couple ended up loving their video and I ended up loving every part of wedding videography. After they shared it, I started getting more people asking me to film their weddings and I realized, “Wow, this is something I could actually do as a job.” Once that idea was in my head, I couldn’t let it go…and here we are.
SIB: Wedding videography is a rapidly rising field. What should engaged couples know about it?
MM: Videography isn’t one size fits all — you really have to find a videographer that fits you! There are a ton of great videographers out there, and each has a different style and a different way of “seeing” your wedding day. The best way to get a video that you love is to find a videographer that gels with your personality and whose creative style lines up with your vision for your video. Watch several samples of their work and focus on videographers who are consistently doing the thing you’re wanting.
SIB: Your cinematography is gorgeous! What’s your creative approach to shooting a wedding?
MM: Thank you! I’m very big on story and like to take a journalistic approach to wedding shoots. I try to be as much of a fly on the wall as possible to capture those candid moments. Some of the best shots I get at a wedding come when the bride and groom are just being themselves and taking in the moment, and I love that. I want to create a wedding film that captures couples as they are, and preserves the moments they forgot about.
SIB: What filmmaker’s style do you most liken aspire to?
MM: I really love Guillermo Del Toro’s (The Shape of Water, Pan's Labyrinth) storytelling. All of his films have a literary feel to them, and they’re so emotionally compelling — I would love to create something like that someday. As far as wedding films go, I’ve loved Heart Visuals' films for a long time. Their work is so candid, but their shots also have that gorgeous cinematic quality to them that makes me want to try new techniques and angles in my own work. I continually come back to their films for inspiration and new ideas.
SIB: As an assistant manager at an oncology clinic, you’re bound to encounter patients who are processing bad news. How do you keep a positive atmosphere while respecting your clients’ emotions?
MM: I think keeping positive comes down to knowing what you can do for people, and respecting their emotions comes down to knowing what you can’t. You can’t always heal someone, but you can be there for them. You have to let people feel and process the way they do without asking them to do it differently, even if it makes you uncomfortable. I think there’s a temptation to be overly positive and not acknowledge when other people are suffering because it makes us who aren’t going through the pain feel better, but sometimes the best way to encourage someone else is to sit with the hard emotion in yourself so that you can be there for them in the way they need.
SIB: How do you prevent burnout and make time for yourself?
MM: It’s so cliche, but you have to be intentional about it. During wedding season there are months at a time when I’m filming every weekend, and each film takes about 30-40 hours to edit, which is most of my evenings. I try to schedule my workdays so I know I’m getting my work done but not setting unrealistic expectations for myself, but I also schedule in the things that most recharge me too. For me, that’s my workouts, walks with my dog, and time with friends and family. At least one of those things has to get done each day; it’s non-negotiable. And I try when I can to set a time when I stop working each night. If you’re type A like I am, you have to be good at forcing yourself to rest, otherwise you’ll end up dreading life.
SIB: Besides long walks with your dog, what other ways do you keep your body moving?
MM: I’m a workout junkie who gets bored easily, so I’m always trying something new! I really love running, hiking, and yoga. Any exercise that gets me outdoors and feeling present is a win in my book. And shooting video is a workout in itself honestly — those cameras get pretty heavy after a few hours!
SIB: Videography is incredibly tough on joints! How do you care for yourself after a long day of shooting?
MM: A hot bath, lots of water, and ibuprofen. Oh, and blasting Usher in the car on the way home. “Yeah!” really hits different after a ten hour shoot.
SIB: You mentioned creating helps you to alleviate anxiety. What specific creative outlets help you do this?
MM: Film is a huge one for me because it’s a very balanced type of creativity. You get the right-brain aspect of coming up with ideas and developing stories, but then editing is a little more of a left-brain task with analyzing shots and making artistic decisions. It’s a very linear process, which is great if you’re a creative like me who thrives on order. Besides that, I love fiction writing, which is totally different. Storytelling is more chaotic in the sense that you’re never certain where the story will take you, and you never quite know when it’s done until it is. It challenges my need to control the outcome and also gives me a space where anything is possible. It’s very therapeutic.
SIB: You also love terrible shark movies! Which one is your favorite and why?
Molly Myhand: There truly is no pleasure I feel guiltier about than this one! 47 Meters Down checks all the boxes for me — it’s got lots of dramatic tension, really bad CGI sharks, tons of overacting, and at least fifteen moments where you go, “Well, that was really stupid, Kate.” It did make me want to go cage-diving with great white sharks though…I don’t know what that says about me.
SIB: Your morning ritual includes making yourself a latte. How did lavender lattes come to be your favorite?
MM: I first saw it on the menu at A Cup Of Commonwealth (a local cafe in Lexington, KY) and had to try it. My soul is one part hipster and two parts flower child, so it was right up my alley. After that I got a little (a lot) obsessed and started making my own lavender syrup for my morning cup. I think making my daily latte is my version of meditation at this point.
SIB: One of your goals is to visit all 50 states. How many have you seen so far? Which states are particularly keen to visit?
MM: So far I’ve been to twenty-two states, and I’m hoping to make it out to a few more this summer! Colorado and Utah are high on my list to visit next; I’m pretty sure those places are on every creative’s bucket list. And I’d love to go out west and hike part of the Pacific Crest Trail through Oregon to the Bridge of the Gods.
SIB: As a horseback rider, how does riding feed your soul? Do you have your own horse?
MM: I do own a horse! His name is Sneakers, and I’ve had him since I was nine. Horseback riding makes me feel free in a way nothing else does. There’s no expectations, there’s no perfect ride to achieve, it’s just about you connecting with this beautiful, intuitive creature you’ve bonded with. Horses really force you to be present and pay attention to your own energy, because they tend to mirror their riders. I always feel more grounded after time at the barn.
SIB: What books are on your to-read list?
MM: Ooh, tough question! It’s a long list, but The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes by Suzanne Collins, Sharp Objects by Gillian Flynn, and The Last To See Me by M. Dressler are a few I’m really excited to read.
SIB: What are you learning about yourself?
MM: I’m learning that I need to redefine what success means to me. Especially with social media, it’s easy to look at what other people are doing and feel like you’re falling behind. I see posts from other filmmakers and friends I graduated with and think, “Am I not doing enough? Am I where I should be?” The truth is that there’s no place you “should” be in life. Everyone is living out their own story, and just because you’re not living out theirs doesn’t mean you’re deficient somehow. You get to decide what’s important to you and how — or even if — you measure success. It doesn’t matter what someone else’s definition is.
SIB: What does balance mean to you?
MM: To me, balance means feeling at peace with yourself at the end of the day. Nothing in life is ever perfectly equal. You’ll always have seasons where you’re working more than not working, or when you’re spending more time with friends than checking off your to-do list. But it’s not about equal; it’s about choosing what’s important to you in this season of life and living in alignment with that. If you can get to the end of the day and feel satisfied that you’ve done the best you could to prioritize what’s truly important to you, that’s balance. And the beauty of that is that it’s always changing, just like we’re always changing.
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