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Updated: May 5, 2020


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Name: Katie F.

Age: 27

Lives in: Midway, Kentucky

Currently attending: University of Kentucky

Earning: Library Science Master’s Degree

Drinks her coffee: No sugar, a lot of cream.

Last read: Origin by Dan Brown.

Works at: Keeneland Race Track as an Administrative Assistant / Midway Branch Library as a Library Assistant

Responsible for: Assisting the Keeneland production manager, working with freelance employees; planning summer and teen library programming


SIB: Your job at Keeneland covers many different things. How do you gear up to be ready for anything?

KF: Listening and learning and asking questions, and not being afraid to take the initiative, and just going for it. Gearing up for the race meet is in itself a preparation of mental fitness. What I do a lot in my job is anticipate the needs of my boss, who's the production coordinator, and trying to fill in where she needs help the most. And I make sure I have plenty of coffee and [am wearing] comfortable shoes because I walk a lot of miles during the race meet.


SIB: You assist people in both of your jobs. How do you strike the balance between camaraderie and professionalism?

KF: I think boundaries are important in a professional relationship. There are some things you talk about, some things you don't. I'm really lucky to have close bonds with the people I work with in both places.



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SIB: Say you’re hanging out with a group of varied people. How do you make sure that everyone's connecting?

KF: Everyone should feel included. Growing up, it would hurt my feelings when my friends wouldn't include me in something, and I never want anyone else to feel that way. I don't care if we're almost in our thirties. I go out of my way to be like, “Oh, Scarlett, you like this. Morgan, you like this. Why don't you guys talk about it?” I like engaging people. It just takes that one thing to spark their comfort level.


SIB: Most people make a differentiation between listening to respond and listening to understand. What do you think are the best ways to listen to understand others?

KF: Being mindful of what they're saying. Participating in active listening as well. Sometimes I restate what they've said to make sure that I'm understanding what they're saying.


SIB: How do you make sure you get alone time when you need it?

KF: I say no to things a lot. I think it comes from being an only child too, I'm completely fine with hanging out by myself. I like people, just sometimes I don't want to be around them.


SIB: What is your favorite way to enjoy a day off?

KF: Wake up without an alarm. A cup of coffee or two. And TV. I love Grace and Frankie. I have a weird obsession with The Bachelor. I always read the spoilers for The Bachelor.



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SIB: Do you ever have anxiety in making a big decision?

KF: I go back and forth between tiny details, but never am I like, “Yes or no??” For all big decisions, once they're implanted [in] my brain, [I’m] pretty much going to stay with it. I get a lot of feedback from my mom. I talk to her about a lot of things. She's a wise lady.


SIB: What prompted your decision to continue your education?

KF: I felt sort of called to do it. I know there's not a lot of money in libraries, but that's not really what it's about. I wanted to use my powers for good. Making myself do homework is really hard. But it's going.

SIB: What do you think the role of books is in America?

KF: There's a big literacy issue. There's a big gap between kids who can read and have those opportunities and kids who don't. And then it just exacerbates itself as [they get] older. For families or communities, I think libraries are at the forefront of helpful organizations. Kids see themselves in characters and stories, and that helps them expand [their understanding of their world]. Like, “Oh, my family is like this family.”


SIB: Which character or an author that has changed your life?

SIB: Code Name Verity by Elizabeth Wein. It’s set in WWII. It's about these two girls. One flies planes, not in the Army - women at that time weren't allowed to fly planes. The other is a spy for the British government. They're friend soul mates and that's how I feel about one of my best friends. I saw a lot of us in those characters, in how solid their friendship was. It's still one of my favorite books.



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SIB: Tell me about exercise!

KF: I try and get 10,000 steps a day. I like to do yoga. I just got a personal trainer for Christmas. I want Michelle Obama arms. I was really into hot yoga for a while; it just got really expensive.


SIB: What do you think it means to have it all together?

KF: I think that's changed a lot. Twenty years ago, people our age [were] on their second kid. I think twenties are the time of still figuring it out. I don't think anyone has it together.


SIB: What things have you figured out about yourself?

KF: Besides knowing what I want to be when I grow up? That's the big one. I feel like that's the only thing I have figured out and even that, it's like, how do I pay for it? Where do I see myself? Am I staying here? Am I leaving? I feel like everything else is all learning experience, especially relationships.



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SIB: How do you cope with disappointment?

KF: Sometimes I cry. I wouldn't say I pick apart things, but I'm like, “Why did this not work?” But that can make you go crazy. I try not to let it eat me up, but that takes time.


SIB: “If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave.” - Mo Willems, Goldilocks and the Three Dinosaurs. Do you think it is possible to live in the wrong story?

KF: I didn't do the leaving, but I was forced to leave from [a recent] relationship. I realized soon after that I wasn't happy, but it was also a huge disappointment. It's been mentally healthy for me to be like, “This is a really unsatisfying story chapter. But I can't keep going back to reread it, because I did everything that I could do.” I'm a lot healthier for that last chapter too. I [know more] what I want.



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SIB: When do you feel like you're enough?

KF: When I'm with my friends and I don't have to worry about impressing anyone. Being enough is also feeling content with yourself, and content with your life.


SIB: What areas of life are you confident in?

KF: I like that I know how to read people. I like my collaborative nature. I know how to delegate, but I also know how to be a team player.


SIB: What does balance mean to you?

KF: Understanding that, you don't have to be superhuman all the time. It's hard to find [balance] all the time - and it's okay if you don't have it.


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blog lifestyle blog women empowerment strong mental health depression anxiety community beauty self love care fitness exercise yoga fashion relationships wellness beauty she is balanced


blog lifestyle blog women empowerment strong mental health depression anxiety community beauty self love care fitness exercise yoga fashion relationships wellness beauty she is balanced


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